My friend Paula Sofia lost her election in the race to replace Kay Floyd in House District 88. Paula ran a great race and fell after all her hard work 22 votes short of being the first transgender in Oklahoma (possibly the US) to be a state representative. She ran a clean campaign and fought uphill all the way against difficult odds. Paula put a lot of hard work into her efforts as did a lot of wonderful people who supported her.
It’s always’s difficult when you lose and especially if you lose in a race that was as close as Paula’s but it was worth the effort and it made a little history in red state Oklahoma that Paula wouldn’t probably have had a chance to make only a few short years ago. It points up that things are changing even in deep red Oklahoma and people’s minds, hearts and souls are changing with the times. In a loss that was as close as this one you have to look for the positives and there are always positives.
The positive thing for me is that people saw Paula as the caring hard working human being she is and has always been. That’s who she is and that’s what they saw and understood. She’s only different in the way any of us are different. We are different because of who we are as human beings not what people want to make us out to be. We are different because of where we come from. We are different because what we think and feel and believe not because of our sexual orientation or our skin color. As the actor said in To Be Or Not To Be, “If you prick us do we not bleed?” And do we not bleed red?
Paula is out there ahead of us all saying to us come on people we are all the same under the skin. We are all just human beings trying to get by just like any other human being. We have our ups and downs. We have our likes and dislikes. We have our good days and bad days. We love, we laugh and we have our pains and aches and it shouldn’t matter beyond that.
What should matter is not what our gender is, not what our skin color is but how we treat others and how we live our lives for the betterment of human kind. We can worship differently. We can believe differently. But at the end of the day our race, our color, our creed, our orientation, our gender shouldn’t matter one way or the other. What should matter is how we treat others. What should matter is how we treat those among us who have little. How we treat those among us who are suffering and are in need.
Paula is telling us it is about caring and giving and sharing it’s not about homophobia, or racism or bigotry it’s about love and compassion. It’s about the human race and being able to live together without hate. Thank you Paula for who you are, a good kind and caring human being. You did good!